I can stay on a weight loss diet and never goof up.
I exercise regularly and never miss a session.
I write a goal immediately as soon as I encounter a problem.
I get up and meditate for an hour at 530 every morning.
I plan each day the night before for perfect organization.
I calculate and pay taxes well before they are due to avoid the rush.
Challenge me with any other self-discipline or self-improvement goal and I will prove to you that I can do it perfectly and stick with it without fail For About Three Days. After that, my Superman cape falls to the floor revealing the guy with no exercise program that slaps his snooze alarm three times before dragging his sorry butt out of bed, skips breakfast to start his day one hour and 13 minutes later than his commitment, the night before to start work.
Have you ever wondered why you get motivated and then you can’t stay with it?
Well It’s Not Your Fault and I can prove it.
If you’re “motivated it means that you are encouraged to change something from the situation you’re presently in. You have probably been doing what you are presently doing for some period of time, which means it is a habit. When you’re “motivated” (emotionally charged) to change, most folks can only sustain the “effort” for about three days. Then your environment and all of the influences, including default “non-decisions” that established your habits to begin with, take back over. That’s why they call them HABITS. What about the three days that most of us can hang in there? Well, those three days are only 1/7 of the 21 days of consistent behavior that it takes to create, or change, a habit.
So what is the answer? Use a system which helps you stay motivated and follow-up for at least 21 days to overpower the HABIT of the past and exchange it for your new chosen behavior, because, remember when it comes to the struggle of the present that plagues you from the past “It’s Not Your Fault).
(The Guardian Code Formula, described in this blog section, creates the winning habits we all need.)