Why are we so stubborn? It seems like most of us are willing to actually fight to keep on being miserable. Most of us don't like our work or are bored with it. We gripe about our jobs, the people we work with, our bosses and the company. We whine and fuss about our relationships. We gossip on Facebook and are fascinated with the goofiness in the lives of other people. We live for weekends, vacations and retirement.
We keep doing the same thing over and over again, griping about the results we don't like but stubbornly refusing to get serious about changing to the life we would love to dream about.
I don't know what your excuse is but mine is that I'm a stubborn, set in my ways, bullheaded German from Minnesota. I have a strong tendency to do the same thing over and over again expecting different results, which by the way is one of the definitions of insanity, and whining and complaining rather than choosing to change.
We're doing exactly what my mother used to say not to do. When I was a kid and something exciting was going to happen in a couple of days or a week I'd be jumping up-and-down all excited and wishing that the time for the fun thing would get here sooner. That's when my sainted mother would say "Now son you have to stop wishing your life away. The past is gone, the future isn't here yet, the gift we have is now, that's why they call it the PRESENT."
When I get discouraged and upset that things are NOT going well with my life. When I am finally miserable enough and I have been in significant pain long enough, I have to ask myself why I am stupid enough to put up with being miserable? The answer that I come back with is always the same. I AM STUBBORNLY refusing to change what isn't working in my life.
Remember me? I'm the guy that wrote the book explaining the Guardian code. If you recall that is the formula by which we can change anything in our lives we don't like to what we want. (Read the commentary of how to use the code in the little My Book of Life journal).
My book, It’s Not Your Fault-The Guardian Code,
We humans are really kind of weird. We would rather feel sorry for ourselves and whine for sympathy than fix the problem. (Learning and applying The Guardian Code)
The two things that we hate to do more than anything else in life are number one to think and number two to decide. But! when things get bad enough if we will just do those two things, then write down the results (outcome) that we want in our lives and apply "the code" we can have the life we deserve.
Note: Thank you for the opportunity to remind myself what I need to do by telling you what you need to do.
So here’s your assignment, should you choose to accept it.
1 – Take one small (start little) worry, frustration, or fear that is weighing heavily on you.
2 – Daydream the outcome of the worry, frustration or fear as if it has already happen.
3 – Last, make the decision to change and achieve the outcome you daydreamed. Make the dream a reality.
Until next time, may you have the peaceful and charmed life that you deserve.