Think about this. When we make the four-hour drive from Salt Lake down to St. George Utah, Lexi, the little gray pup that you see in a lot of my videos, is absolutely determined (she has a well defined goal) to sit or lay on Sylvia’s lap all the way. No matter how much resistance she’s given, she will whine, sneak, beg and negotiate, every way she can think of, constantly, until she is successful. Does she know what success is? Absolutely. When she reached her goal, the lap, she achieved success.
My problem along with most of the people I work with is that the most difficult thing for me to do is actually decide what I want. Oh, most of us have no problem at all saying we need more money, want a new car or wish that our relationships were better. But, the only way we’re going to reach an outcome that we really want is to define it very clearly.
To use the “I want more money” example, it’s similar to saying, “I want to get out of the city that I’m in and my goal is to go to another city”. You can start driving but until you define your goal more clearly you’re never going to be able to figure out when you have successfully reached your destination. Our subject is success. But here’s the question. If I haven’t clearly defined my destination how will I recognize the success of having gotten there?
If you’re not reaching your outcomes, goals, the way you’d like to, the cause, very probably, is that you have not clearly defined exactly what you want. Remember I keep telling you that you are a creator of your life. In the statement originally made by Buddha that “when the student is ready the teacher appears”, the student must be ready to be taught what he needs to know. So the question is how do we become ready to attract to us the teachers (the people, events and resources) to achieve a desired outcome? The answer is simple. We have to define clearly the outcome we want and focus totally on that outcome ignoring all real or imagined obstacles.
They say that Napoleon had the attitude that, he saw only the objective and that the obstacles must give way. This is how he became referred to as “organized victory”.
Here’s an example of how it works. You could declare the outcome (goal) that, “I’m thankful that I have a new car”. But, until you clarify the make, model, year, color, interior, power-plant, and define its feel, sounds, looks and even smell along with the feelings and emotion in the experience of driving it, the creation of your outcome will be retarded to the extent that your "daydream" of your new car is incomplete.
So, my conclusion, when I get frustrated with the slow achieving my goals, is to use the total focus, determination and intense emotion displayed by a little gray dog as my example to bring about the success I desire in the creation of my destiny. There is absolutely no question that this little pup has such a clear definition of success that her goal is never uncertain.
Until next time, may you have the peaceful and charmed life that you deserve.