I Had a Situation Occur the Other Day or One of the people at our “old dudes anonymous” Complex had been pretty rude to Sylvia, my sweetheart. Normally I would, as any knight in shining armor would do, run down to the barn, drag my poor old white horse away from his bail of hay, polish up my armor, mount up and charge out to do battle with the “infidel” that had insulted my lady fair.
Unfortunately she was in Salt Lake and I happen to be in St. George trying to get some writing done. When Sylvia, in one of our phone conversations I initiate to avoid work, told me about the confrontation I wanted to “deal with it” right away. Unfortunately, I was three hours away and needed to get my work done. We decided to “handle it” when I got back to Salt Lake.
This stinks. I have a hard time letting things go that “need to be settled”. So, the conversation I was having, in my little pea brain about what I’d like to say and do and all that stuff, became quite a distraction and any creativity went out the window.
I had a bad case of “STRESS”. This was a huge distraction. Anticipatory Stress is when you can’t do anything about a situation that you know you’re going to have to face in the future, but you’re upset enough, worried, that you can’t focus on what you “should” be doing.
This is a time to practice “Intelligent Procrastination”.
Here’s how it works. Set, Write Down, a “worry appointment” on your work calendar at about one hour prior to the time when you will be able to actually confront the situation. (You may want to make some quick notes on some of the “brilliant comments” you have already thought of.)
This is a case where “the pen, writing stuff down, truly is mightier than the sword”.
Here are the “STRESS” issues that “intelligent procrastination” resolves.
- You’ve eliminated the danger of forgetting to “fix” the situation. One of the biggest stress factors (worry) in trying to keep things stored as remembrances in our brain is the fear that our brain “leaks”. Writing it guarantees it will be there when you need it.
- Your distraction from getting on with your life is set aside until you can actually deal with the issue. Fear, stress, can wipe out the living that you should be doing all the way up until the time you can finally face your “demon”. Remember the old saying “the coward (fearful anticipatory worrier) dies 1000 deaths, a brave man (doesn’t waste his present “pre-– living” the future) dies but one”.
- Finally, writing stuff down, you’ll discover if you try it, gets stuff out of your “leaky” brain in the form of thought and brings it into the real tangible world of fact. It allows you to feel that something has been actually done.
Good Stuff to Ya!